Its 3:54am here. But there must be a bunch of things running that he has kept hidden from me, to have engaged in an exit affair and to be a runaway as well. It doesnt make any difference what label you put on what your husband has done. I have seen this happen, especially with people who do not have a strong sense of who they are. How dare he trash the magic of us, and all that was precious then say he doesnt want to save the M as HE did too much damage! These women do not have other men in their livesthey have often just fallen out of love and nothing can change their mind. Satori must never comment or be critical of the way our family regards such things nor how it treats other people generally. They are all there right from the script in the manual. My biggest regret is that I did not discover the A before my H left our house. There WAS something. I was furious with him. I said really 36 years and I get a handshake? We come here, where we are not quite so aloneand all of that Rage Sorrow and Pain needs to come out one way or another. He is a child in a mans body. I know what that desperation is to get those emails. I hope you are well Puzzled, (And ShiftingImps, TryingHard, TheFirstWife, SarahP too). Theres plenty of sites that do censor. However, this behavior is part and parcel of narcissistic behavior. Lucky you that at least you didnt have that as well. Puzzled What is that except cowardice and weakness? Accept the unknown. Kind of Alien vs Predator ultimate combat where OW vs American Psycho battle which takes out two villains since that would be a duel to the death and the world is infinitely a better place accordingly. The people who get burned the most are the ones who have allowed their spouse to magically maintain a certain lifestyle without knowing how such a lifestyle is maintained or where the money comes from. TH Shes really nice. You have any other questions, ask away. Typical cheater move. Your posts are raw and full of pain, but they are real. It is just not real their relationship is built on fluff and fantasy. And that is a very toxic environment. Love this: The true Warriors. I have two books I want to recommend to you: Resisting Happiness by Matthew Kelly and Everybody Needs to Forgive Somebody by Allen Hunt. But I have a super talent where magical wishes really do come true and dont even start on my unicorns!!! It will not be an easy road. The wedding is the point at which the bride and groom are expected to relinquish many options freely and are supposed to settle for one. Nothing would surprise me at the moment though. They used to email eachother all the time. Didnt want to take any responsibility for any part of the mess he created, the position he put himself in and therefore me. Im not one to use a lot of foul language in my life but we need a safe place to vent and sometimes that includes language. He was so mean, so cold and kept refusing because of the restraining order but he finally did. Thank you so much Single Dad for your loving words of kindness. Quite a few women get cold feet on their way to the altar. I guess that Im just super stubborn and I didnt want to give in to her behavior. It was a long and arduous process for him to understand what he had really done to me. And again DO NOT TALK ABOUT SPLITTING STUFF AMICABLY WITH HIM. One thing I forgot to say. I dont believe I have ever requested to Doug and Linda how to run their blog. Yes he wants a payout. She was confused. We are still here for you. A lot ensued during that trip A LOT enough so that on my drive home is when my anger came like a volcano. I was getting ready for work that next morning. Busy before and busy when you get home. I was not controlling either. No tears just fury. It hurts I know but it could be a huge blessing in disguise. They are loyal to me and while they love him they are furious (sister), disappointed (dad, brother, sister in law) and incredulous (cousin, aunt) with my H. Thank you again. BLEW up. Its almost like Im split into two people. Entered art contest. Hes a big boy and hes made this mess, not you. In other words, I dont stand up and say My name is SI and my husband had an affair) Tempting at times but no..I havent done that. There in lies the bigger question?? You will heal. I would practically freak out if I woke up and he wasnt in the bed. My price for this mess will be higher than anyones. You guys are right when you say things are moving quickly. Dont give away the farm as people say in the Midwest where I live. Well I knew a little bit about addiction as far as alcohol and drugs and what happened there. Im the only one with access to all accounts. But there are things we can do to lift the pain somewhat. I did what I did and I cant change it. Like I said. It reminds them they love you) and well I just had to call and tell you, OK so maybe not those exact words but do you know what I am saying? It had nothing to do with swearing and everything to do with being a royal pain in the ass making false accusations and being slanderous not to mention flaming people whenever she felt like it. As opposed to the original statement (to TFW: here are the words not the actions!!) The middle of June I had enough. She doesnt intimidate me in the least. I filed for divorce under adultery. They abandon because they are cowards. I still had not found EAJ. Just know right now you have the upper hand and you are in control of this situation. First welcome to the group to which no one ever wanted to belong. But most days I am much better now. As you read on DDay I was stripping wall paper. And how he shows his love! Much shopping and a decent amount of mani-pedi action. The big questions: Do we find them? She is still involved with the other man.what else do you really need to know? You said you already caught her with him. For whatever reason, our spouses didnt say no. It is scary but God will give you the strength and courage. I mean, what could turn things around now? Thats just life!!!! So for you the decision for you children and their wellbeing makes complete sense. In any event I think you need to re-group and move. Neither is easy, but sometimes in the end we are better if we have put the necessary effort to learn and grow. We have more power in those early few months than we realize. Carefully considering both your responses TH. My guess is the lawyer took one look at H and thought Holy f**k I got the crap client. Yeah baby!! 2. I speak to counselor. She was unhappy. He can Google how to fix a M after infidelity and tons of advice in all forms will pop up. You know what my dear , this is such a sticky place to be. Unfuckwithablewhen you are truly at peace and in touch with what and who you are that nothing anybody says or does bothers you and no negativity can touch you. Im happy to hear youve made some personal strides. They both give good thoughts as Ive read their posts on other issues on this site. And yes the CS LOVES to play the pity card. Of course he had no answer. She is in his head and thats all. Its a spiral after that. I am going through my own hell, as you can read above, and I am a newbie to this stuff, but I will say that TryingHard, ShiftingImpressions are very wise. They tried talking sense but he was having none of it. Slowly slowlyI started to see remorse. Sadly you have to move on and continue your life without him. My feeling is that he enjoys the idea that he can come back to me, it puffs up his ego that all Im waiting on is for his return. LOL I live in one of those states. Choose your path and trust your decisions. Im wavering for how long I stick at it, as Im worried about recovery and how deep down the well I could go if I dont set some sort of a clear path soon. If she wanted to be in it, then it was her choice to come back to me. He said he was so confused but knew he had made the biggest mistake of his life. The voice said to me: Hey, dont write yourself off yet. Lol. The 24 hours before I need to deal with him (even only via text) is triggering. Masks. She was the Queen of Cordiality kind to everyone and her rule was that if she did not have something nice to say directly to someone, then she wouldnt anything. So be prepared for the CS meltdown. For the narcissist, there are no genuine relationships. She might send me a text message. And so on. You have your life to live and make it the best one for you; whether hes a part of it or not. Sure enough it came out. You are viewed as the mean mom. Other brides flee at the last minute because they have a commitment phobia. Previous to that it was all crying and begging him to come home. And neither the nanny nor the nannys mother knew that he was sleeping with both of them. He is doing more stuff around the house lately unasked, he even expressed an interest in talking to my mother the other night, which he hasnt done in months. Even in a case where someone like my H claims he wants the OW so that he can have someone to treat with disrespect, their pride in their relationship with us is based on treating us with respect. Kind of freaking out though. Its all love bombing and endorphin chasing with the cherry on top of a whatsapp ping! In following Satoris thread her H was a good guy for many many years. The fact that my H we caught in a whirlpool of emotions and couldnt make a decision on his own was terrifying to witness!! In any case you cant play tennis by yourself so if it wasnt for all you guys rallying to help me actually make it through another day at the coalface none of it would happen. H: Yes I know, but you wont trust me again. But that is due to you and to the gang here ???? A dose of heavy reality, as TryingHard mentioned, might be a necessary circuit breaker. Both really good books with great information that will validate A. He begged me to stay and I said I would give him a chance but played hard ball. He is not showing remorse or concern about anyone but himself. Im freaking out. If she found herself in a group where people were swearing, gossiping, or doing other things she felt were distasteful, she either got up and left the group or said nothing at all. At some point in time they completely checked out of their marriages and yet pretended they were engaged in the marriages. Prayer and meditation has helped me. He said at the moment I have to try and fight my feelings of fear and try to recallibrate in favor of feeling calm and strong to counter it. That means get the fucking business essentials in writing and then move on to the personal stuff. He is sitting on his hands a lot atm waiting for me to make the moves, which is why I havent made any LOL. Get him to sign away the business to you. So yeah, no. He repaid my trust by abusing it in fucking someone while on that trip. Or, my personal fave: Youre too smart for me, I cant fight you > Recall why you said yes in the first place and see if your reasons are still valid.> Think about what you like, what you love about your future spouse and why these aspects of his personality are so special to you. My former drama-free life that is. The point that I hope you understand: we have all suffered through this crap called an affair. I spent all day contemplating and considering what you each wrote to me. So basically yes, its the same as in your case but only NOW do I understand why he wouldnt do MC or IC. I completely get what you say. I asked him if it was true the A was ongoing and he said yes. Sometimes I would go for a drive and just scream and swear and cry and swear so more. Let alone try and take me down with them. As I always say if a M is not working for one of the spouses that does happen. They are believing all of his garbage that he is spewing out. No signs at all. Silence. As long as it doesnt involve singling out other members and saying mean things, then people should be able to communicate freely. Many people realize, even on their wedding night, that they have compromised on the overall value of their spouse. I couldnt leave my house. My $ is untouchable in a divorce. She would just politely detach. And we have to hope and pray that they want to commit to our M with all they have. Every word. He was being very nice and we were even intimate. No, he said, we have to talk. Thats why Ive been agreeing, but maybe youve nailed it, that it must be his idea or again its me being controlling *smh In other words he hears anything I say as white noise and is sticking to his guns at all costs and actively ignoring anything and everything that comes out of my mouth even when its mostly been neutral, kind or positive. I hate that. I had about a 20 minute rampage and then. No really, run while you still can. Loaded in with a few remember when situations that came up naturally, even one arose from the owner of the restaurant who came over to chat. Everyone blamed my great grandmother except for one of her daughters, my grandfathers sister, who took care of my perennially unpleasant great grandmother during her elder years. I just hope I can survive the onslaught to get to the other side of it. The longer you say nothing &/or dont confront the longer the situation will continue. And was then resentful and mean etc while you worked on the M. Mine is all of that at a distance while we are running our business. The bigger question is Is it working for you? No suspicion just concern and care. Now that he finally gets it he had a very different attitude about our R and M. All I can say is if he continues to blame the BS for HIS CHOICE TO HAVE AN A then he is not ready to R and go to MC. My great, great-grandmother continued to walk silently into the river and finally turned around to speak to her stunned daughter. He has had every chance to turn this around. Oh, God, what lunacy is this? They have issues and they are self-medicating with an affair. And having spoken to OW before I confronted him she provided details as well and she sent me the emails so I had additional evidence of most of what transpired. He claimed to have forgotten to bring his phone. Youve gotten a lawyer and thats paramount. 20 steps forward 5 steps back. And it always will be. Definitely. Its a long road for this sometimes. I replied that was insulting to me, given how much freedom he has always had. and for the prayers and positive thoughts. 9. I lost weight I could not afford to lose. You dont have to be loud or mean to be assertive or badass. In the minds of most people it was just a breakup and they happen all the time, get over it etc. I still think you are doing great. I was not enough for him and I would not be enough for any other man. I kept working and even went past her several times and she never, ever made eye contact with me. He wasnt. You know, trying to be all calm and not play into the narrative of abusive controlling and cray cray wife that Im pretty sure he is spinning since neither of my parents in law have contacted me. Im so sorry we are both going through this. What can you do with that? Breathe. The above considerations can be encapsulated in the following statement that a lover might express: "Darling, let us get married; but if you have second thoughts about it, please let me know at least three days before the wedding, when the company arranging the wedding is still willing to refund 80 percent of our down payment. Satori He did not communicate with me. No I dont advocate giving them their space. But you should see a lawyer to financially protect yourself and your baby. My hs lawyer was a bull dog lawyer back in the day. Call it Midlife crisis or Affair Fog or both or whatever you want. Cue major insights in the pre dawn hours! Business is a company. I almost feel like I had to shelve the whole A trauma as the business side became so critical. It just meant so much. I cant tell you what to do. The face is the same but their soul and their heart are gone somewhere else. Its consequences can be the most sad. He literally flaunted it in my face that he had feelings for the OW. The whole point of starting it was to maximise our family skill set, where we work to our strengths and complement each other. Satori- TH is right. Thank you TryingHard. What kind of a pusdy is he?? Then there was my grandfathermy fathers father. She also said that he now seems really good. Now, though, when I start thinking about RED FLAGS just before the affair and during? You must take care of and secure your business interests. Yes I was furious. They needed to see me living this way every day. Ten steps forward eight steps back. Things changed DDay2 (for me). I called our sons and they came right over. I knew something was wrong for that year and half and tried everything in my power to find out what was wrong. He may think it is what he wants BUT the reality may be very different for him. To me, the person I married would be horrified at the actions against me.This should be a no-brainer for you to fix.. Never again. Me: Well, cant we figure this out? I can only give you hope that your H comes back. OK Im worried about your joint business and financial assets. I read your last post and I want to make a few points. I could tell he truly believes some of the things he is saying even though they are wrong, but with time I hope he sees the light in that regard. For whatever reason. But not your Wife (for whatever reason). The best line I heard during my Hs A was this: Well by virtue of dating a married man she is the OW!!! Thanks theFirstWife & ShiftingImpressions. I left out the part where I came to the office and confronted the OW. I was remorseful for my part l, but she wasnt. Plus what are the business implications of keeping him involved in the business? So I guess white and an old and calm played a part. Yes that story is etched forever in my mind. Your vivid description of my Hs mindset is reassuring. Satori. WWWhhhaat??? You can tell they are there intact, but he cant give or receive emotions. Hope youre doing better Satori. Take your time getting through your emotions and feelings. In the end, people who abandon spouses are incredibly selfish and deceptive. So he faced it and owned up to it and admitted his mistakes. You must show him that you are starting to control YOUR life and what happens to YOU. How do they change so quickly and so drastically? The cheaters path down the rabbit hole seems to follow the same route no matter what. I now believe he cant come back to me (I would but I cant) because then he has to wear the label of Cheater. It may seem like a game and maybe it is. All of us here have heard the same thing from our confused cheaters. Because he didnt. And not doing things like TFW and I did to protect ourselves in the future. Its an awful spot to be in and I feel for you. I called him about a half hour later and he told me he called an employee friend to come to the office to secure the building. There is no respect if the affair is still in going. Trust in Me, I will save you. My guess is he wsnts some kind of payout. Ive never seen anyone censored here at EAJ and if they were Id be gone. I dont now anything about laws in other countries other than what Ive heard about in European countries. That takes its toll. lol I could write a book! Stay mentally and physically healthy. Then Ill be business emails only and NC going forward. It was his choice as he pursued her and made the A happen. Throughout all of this there was not any genuine remorse or much discussion, a few mumbled apologies about the mess he created. I too suspected he was using drugs I even asked him! I guess Im lucky. I didnt feel it in my heart. This is exactly how my R started. I so stupidly said ok, we can work on it alone. So dont take his running away personally, but have cab money just in case . Nothing you do or say will stop the avalanche that is happening. My crying only made me look weak and pathetic and all he wanted was to get the eff away from me. Fast forward, after a number of years of this BS, I stood in the living room with two objects in my hand. Dont be afraid to reach out to them to help. What a massive mistake. I was being supportive during the entire A. I have complete control of my life and am much stronger. Im going to be as sweet as pie from here on and get the signature. I agree to reconsider M. We have a wonderful holiday weekend and things are great. Im an annoying reminder of the past he is running from. I brought up R all the time with my wife and the questions of what can I do or what can we do to get back to us. I will add you and your son to my prayers. What is the runaway bride syndrome, the psychology of its manifestation in women and men. But, alas, I feel like we are part of a 12 step program. Such unfortunate suitors often say that "the friend turned out to be lazy, she cannot really cook, but what can we say about the family then?". She blamed, projected, and gaslighted. Unlike his betrayal. To see things clearly has really fucked with my centre of gravity. Tried to be a better parent. Well I might get to that point some day but not just yet. He thinks he really knows you. Its only in your head you feel left out or looked down on. If I brought up issues in the morning You have ruined my whole day, TH: Theres nothing wrong with me I am not going to counseling. Memes are not proprietary I dont believe and they are everywhere. He leased an apartment and left you? I figured out he was playing me. Hes nowhere near out of the tunnel yet with regards to OW (at least not explicitly in what he tells me, but he may be covering up), but our relationship is getting back on track and that is a good thing. But never fall for the Lie. Maybe instead of a big move maybe a phone call hey do you want to meet and talk. Thats why I dont want to read any books about what is purely my Hs issues. I dont think she will ever understand how badly it hurt me. On the days I let the sadness overtake me, I was a puddle on the floor. Which says everything really. But your Dad sounds like a class act.lean on himyou simply cant do this alone. And that is bereavement. 3. Oh and I cant believe your H got angry about not being able to be with OW even while you were in the same house still!! Im going to keep the talk narrow in focus and leave at a pre arranged time. So he started looking for excuses to contact me. No one is worth it. And thats the key word: work. I thought Id read that about Elizabeth Gilbert somewhere. I believe its a timing thing and I have no idea what her motivation is. I had other plans for those. Losing my grip on my emotional composure. I dont know about anything anymore. Yeah, I get it. At this point so much has happened on top of the A. Its a complicated layer cake now. Hoffman was the officer who was pictured in the media leading Wilbanks through Albuquerque International Sunport after being taken into custody. Three weeks later he wants a D. Doesnt love me !! I dont quite frankly care if this thimble mind is a threat to themselves. You have to ignore it and let your lawyer do your talking. Meanwhile my Plan B is formulating. not to mention your dreams is a kind of death of identity that Im only just starting to understand. It seems from your story that you are still with your husband currently? It upsets me seeing people like that. No Contact. I already had 15 years and all the firsts. Thats what the scroll button is for. I am still wary but for the first time, I actually felt some truth in the statement and I watched him and tried to feel what he was saying rather than listen to the verbal word salad. Satori. CAUTION CAUTION CAUTION. Ive never pretended to be anyone else here. ! whenever i hear about anything to do with infidelity. That is all. They work in societally-approved professions and are successful at what they do: business, church, medical field, law. What I really want to know though is this: I am truly grateful for Vikki Starks book however, I want to understand better: WHAT MAKES A SPOUSE DO THIS? I was very strong, no holds barred etc. People just fall out of love. 2015 was a wreck. Spousal Abandonment Syndrome is when one of the spouses leaves the marriage without any warning, andusuallywithout having shown any signs of unhappiness with the relationship. If he or she wants to get rid of his syndrome, you can master the techniques yourself that are quite successful in the fight against phobias. But yeah, not so much. Im not seeing much to like in my Hs behaviors at the moment. They jump into it both physically and emotionally and whole heartedly. Drug talk,huhyup, you cant make this stuff up. [11] It came with a small towel, to put over the doll's head, to model how she appeared on TV when in the custody of Albuquerque Police. I know what it feels like. I have just gone 4 days of NC but I have all my paperwork ready to present to move forward with D. Its hard to do NC when you have a business together. Really? I dont think it is too soon to present the D option. Its my belief H had no idea how much harder his life would be nor the spike in his troubles generally. You will know when. Trying Hard I agree with TFWyou seem to have this well in hand!!! We met again this morning, third day in a row and for 3 hours. Don't worry, We'll not spam you & You can unsubscribe with us any time. As part of her plea bargain, she was sentenced to two years of probation and 120 hours of community service, and she was also ordered to pay $2,250 in restitution to the Gwinnett County Sheriff's Department. Im hopeful your father has or will recover. He blamed you for it. He doesnt care. Runaway Bride The director Gary Marshall, I think, didn't see this coming. He is not even thinking about me or what my future will be like. Trying Hard is always one of the first ones to show support and care, albeit that she does it differently than I do. Never. I do it for no one but myself. How do you choose better the next time?? No to IC, no to MC, theyve done too much damage, ILYBINILWY, all of it. I do want what is best for me and my well-being. Oh hell no!! HA remember that from college??? H: I dont know where to start. Their mentality is I want what I want and I want it now. This monster would not even tell me what I did wrong. You will come back a different woman. You have to go through it, theres no way around it, and it sucks big time. On the other hand, men generally leave because another woman is in the wings. You nailed it re his delusional thinking to justify his behavior. I would say such a thing for effect because very few husbands want to visualize their wives getting hot and heavy with another man, even if said husband is cheating. Thank you for the great post and article! She stood there in shock as everything I said was the exact path it followed. WTH is wrong with ME????? Im too busy sorting myself out. Often, even the seeming opportunity to cheat was not even there. First off your brother is right. All that combined with the fact that he truly loved me and our life certainly added to his drive to at least try R. I had no choice but to put my big girl pants in and become a force with whom not to be reckoned! I declined as I felt it would show too much interest and also I dont, as Ive said before, intend to police him. What happened so extraordinary that makes the bride spit on public opinion and, pulling up the hem of her wedding dress, run away from her future? Its been rough as. And getting back the self-respect is the first step toward them reconnecting with us emotionally. Sigh. But it takes strength and courage to make a decision to R or D after infidelity. But It comes down to this: What you thought you knew v What is / was really happening. I was too nice. Is it drugs or depression or some addiction or some other mental issue? My lawyer has said I should put some distance in (NC) and he will follow up with email to secure obligations.Im still doing all my work as usual and making sure everything is airtight. He made sure I could get time off work to attend his graduation. Its not harsh or ungodly to demand that our spouses are faithful and truthful. Regarding the sharing of what you are going through..I have found the opposite to be true. I pleaded, I begged he allow me to process this info and stay and talk about it. To set this up, she did not return from a second weekend at the beach. Wish I could rely on any sort of consistency from him though! Do not clean it up for him. One way or another you need to sleep. I would have further contacted the lending institution and made them aware of the possible liability they were entering into with him. All you do is hold your head up proudly. Thanks ShiftingImps, I agree with you and I can certainly see the difficulties for MILs. But remorse first and then we rebuild from there, but I have seen nothing from you. I heard not sure I want to be married. I just knew they were in there. Hi Satori Im so sorry. A couple of days later MIL asked my H apparently (unbeknownst to me) if he was having an A. Hello SatoriSo glad you posted. No convo Im having an affair and have been for the last 3 1/2 years and I feel awful. She probably is planning on leaving you but maybe not. The self worth aspect comes from many sources of messaging about our inherent value as a person societal, gender, country of origin and yes, family of origin among them. 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